Tips to Inner Well Being – No. 1 Letting Go

Today’s post is the first in a series of tips aimed at growing your Inner Well Being. Letting go is a good place to start, but what do I mean by ‘letting go’?

Take the time to walk around your home and really notice everything. You may only live in one room, but the chances are that the possessions that surround you belong to you.

You may not have bought them yourself. Over time they have been accumulated, many on show, many hidden in cupboards or drawers. They all have one thing in common. They belong to you.

As I sit here in my office, I’m looking at everything that lives in my room. It’s full of books that have served me well over the years. Crystals, Buddhas, vases, ornaments, a vision board. More books and of course, the tools of my trade that I use everyday such as the PC, printer, spare paper, ink etc.

And I haven’t even opened the cupboards or drawers. This room holds tangible memories of the last 10 years. It’s the living museum of Jan Marchant.

I can guarantee that the other rooms of my home hold tangible memories of times past. How about yours?

Here’s the thing. Today I am taking the time to look around and see what’s there. Most days I don’t even notice those books, or ornaments that once meant so much to me.

New treasures sit at the front because the memories are fresher. My latest treasure is a glass paperweight (see picture) brought back after a great weekend with friends.

And yet, my Inner Well Being is crying out for clarity. It’s asking me to sort through my treasures and pass them on. Maybe to friends, maybe to charity. There’s always someone who can benefit.

But this tip isn’t just about decluttering stuff. It’s much deeper than that.

Just as we store our treasures of times past, we store our memories as well. They get buried in our subconscious mind, burrowing deeper and deeper as newer events push them down.

If the memories are good then no harm is done. But quite often memories are reminders of all the times that we didn’t feel good enough, or confident enough, or unhappy or hurt. The list is endless as they bury themselves, looking for a safe place to hide.

We carry on little knowing their radar is permanently on, sending reminders back when new situations threaten their safety. Those memories can also be dealt with by letting go.

Remember the truth will always make you feel lighter. A lie will always make you feel heavier. You can use this information to declutter your mind.

When thoughts pop into your head, ask yourself ‘does this make me feel lighter or does it make me feel heavier?’ If lighter, you know that you are heading in the right direction, moving towards Inner Well Being.

If it makes you feel heavier ask yourself ‘where did this come from?’ and ask to return it to that place, with consciousness attached. This enables it to be released and it will also leave your subconscious mind. Magic.

Letting go is essential to Inner Well Being. The more you let go of, the lighter you become. Try it for at least one week and keep a record of your progress.

Now take the same principle to your belongings. Hold an object in your hand and ask the same questions. Anything that feels heavy (and we’re not talking weight here!) put it in a box, ready to give away.

What about people? Think about someone. How do you feel? Ask where the feeling came from rather than the person. Use the same method to release the bad memories of them – you won’t lose any good feelings you have about them.

The lighter your possessions, the lighter your feelings, the lighter your Inner Well Being. Don’t just take my word. Try it and discover the magic for yourself.