Tips to Inner Well Being – No.2 Being Yourself

Oscar Wilde said ‘Be yourself. Everyone else is taken’. It’s great advice when you already know who you are. So many people spend valuable time seeking perfection.  Today’s tip is looking at being yourself.

Perfection belongs to all the parts of you that are missing. It’s belongs to the eye of the beholder. That vision is warped. Being yourself means losing that vision.

Today I spent around 3 hours in Accident and Emergency with my 10 year old Grandson. Luckily it turned out to be nothing major. Sitting waiting to be called the TV was tuned in to the Jeremy Kyle show.

It’s not something I’ve watched before and I got hooked in. Fascinated by the display of emotions laid bare, I was also horrified at what was happening.

One lady was looking to have her grandchildren’s DNA verified. The line up included the childrens parents, plus the other grandmother with Jeremy Kyle asking them all loaded questions which helped rack up the tension. It was horrible.

The DNA proved to be the first lady’s son and their 5 minutes of infamy was over. Unfortunately the ramifications could be devastating for both families.

The lady looking for proof wasn’t being herself. She had read some gossip on Facebook, questioned all but the parents concerned, and finally jumped to the wrong conclusion. She didn’t trust her own instincts and took giant steps to prove her point.

How easy it is to follow rather than lead. Following means that you can never be yourself because somebody elses view or idea is so much better than your own. It’s looking outside of yourself for the answers to living your best life.

Of course there will always be areas where looking for answers outside of yourself is the right thing to do. Not many people are walking encyclopaedias are they! But looking outside of yourself for answers that affect your judgement can and will cause immense pain.

On the other hand, being willing to evaluate what you hear from others using your own inner knowledge can and will be liberating. Leading yourself from the inside out.

You won’t always get it right from another persons perspective, but it will always be right for you. That’s because it comes from that place inside that stores your Inner Wisdom. The Inner Wisdom that belongs to you and you alone.

It’s part of the wonderful unique person you are. It knows you better than you know yourself and it will always be true to you. Being yourself means opening yourself to that Inner Wisdom and trusting what it delivers.

It’s not easy to access when you are in a low frame of mind. Simply because in a low frame of mind it’s harder to think clearly isn’t it? Decide never to make decisions when in a low frame of mind knowing that when you flow into a higher frame of mind, and you will, the answers will present themselves.

Sounds hard but that’s only because it feels different. Trust me it get’s easier with practice.

The key to being yourself is to step back when you find yourself in a dark place. Do your best to live through it without making major decisions. Tell yourself you’re still thinking about what to do for the best.

When your mood feels lighter and the end of the tunnel is in sight, wait until the answers that come feel like the right answers. As always, be guided by what your body is telling you. Remember the truth will always feel lighter.

So what if parts of you appear to be missing? Finding them within yourself is the key to knowing and being yourself. A beautiful human being who is 100% unique.