Totally dependent beings

Many years ago, when I held my daughter in my arms for the first time, I felt a surge of love overwhelm me.  Besotted, I connected to this tiny human being who had landed in my world.

Today she is full grown and living her own exciting adventures, but it was as I looked into my granddaughters all knowing eyes, that I realised for the first time, just how helpless we arrive.

We’re all born as totally dependant beings, looking to be fed and watered, bathed and dressed, as well as protected against the harsher elements life.

We learn all sorts of things as we make our way to adulthood – walking, talking, the numerous ‘how to’s’ and just about anything that requires how to do it for ourselves.

Like the longest version of ‘Simon Says’, we also pick up bad habits, belief systems and how not to think for ourselves.

Does anyone else see the irony that was created here?

For as sure as eggs are eggs, once we reach adulthood we spend the rest of our lives l(y)earning to be ourselves.  The person who exists under the layers that have been grown for us.

You see, when we look for the guidance from others, that was so useful on our way to being ‘grown-up’, we are looking outside of ourselves.

There’s nothing wrong with advice, well intentioned help and listening to others experiences.  Most of the time it’s just what we need to help us find a way through the stuff that life has a habit of throwing our way.

But it’s always help that’s coming from outside-in, rather than inside-out.

Often, when there’s stuff going on, it’s easy to slip into a low quality of mind.  A very dangerous place to look for answers.

It’s impossible to think clearly when the brain is going round in circles, looking for the best outcome.  And although others well meaning suggestions sound just the ticket, take a big step back.

Jot down those suggestions for consideration later on.  Develop a willingness to wait until the mind settles into a higher quality of mind – and it always does.  This will give a different slant to what’s going on.

Most of us see-saw between the two states of mind, high or low, with gradients in between.  The higher our state of mind, the better we can access our inner wisdom.  This has to help to apply the brakes when heading towards a tumble into insecurity and mistrust of our own decisions, doesn’t it?

Inside each and every one of us, we have access to the clarity of our inner well-being.

Now’s the time to look at those suggestions and see if they are the right solutions for us.  The best way to ‘know’ is to listen to our feelings.

If it feels right, then we will always feel lighter.  If it’s not for us, then we will feel heavier.  This barometer is never wrong.

As Michael Neill (http://www NULL.supercoach NULL.com/) Supercoach,so eloquently puts it ‘it’s the difference between chasing after the whims and desires of the personality and being guided by the inspiration of the soul.’

I know what I prefer as I enjoy time well spent with my grandchildren.